Planning and trying to put all the pieces together...

So, I realize that I plan meetings and events for a living, so you would think that I would be a lot more motivated to plan my own wedding. But sadly, I am not. Mainly, because in my professional life, I get to spend other people's money (about 800,000 of them) and while (given the times) I am doing so much more frugally than I ever have, it still is not my money.

For example, today at worked I looked into renting classroom style tables and linens, instead of using the bigger tables that we have in inventory at our office, so that we could create a little more room in our meeting space for a large function we have coming up. almost $400 late, no big deal...but facing that figure (even that small) for my own wedding is daunting. BTW, we decided to rethink the plan and decided not to rent the tables, something I would have laughed at a year ago as we would have rented them on the spot.

I believe part of my issue is that I know what can be done and want it to be to that extreme. But, I do not want to go into debt...take that back, a lot of debt, to get married (unfortunately, the debt may be unavoidable. I really would be happy to drive down to the city county building and be done with it. Since that is the most important part of this whole process...the marriage, not the wedding.

So, it looks like it is going to be early November, but that is still in question. We have not settled on a location, but the largest percentage seems to be here in Indianapolis, closely followed by Coastal New England and Vegas.

I never thought I would be sentimental about getting married in my hometown, but as we have discussed more and more I find that I am more and more sentimental about it. Mainly, because I want our friends to all be included. We know that our families will travel whereever we go, but our friends have become a such a big part of our lives that I would hate for them not to be there.

There are some distince advantages to getting married later in life..though. When you are in your 20's (and your parents are the main financial source), you want to invite everyone and your parents everyone. We find ourselves limiting to only our really close friends and family (although, an Indy location would make the number a little bit bigger), sometimes probably being too picky.

So, now you see the whole avoidance issue. But, it is my goal to at least by the end of the week (or the end of our vacation) to have all of the numbers put together, have a date and a pretty good idea of where within the location it will be.

In the end, whether small or smaller, I know that at the end of the day it will be memorable, but getting there is the hard part!